About four years ago I was sitting down with my cousin at Tavern 29 in Gramercy. I was debating the pros and cons about making a job change. Talking about what the change of pace would look like. How a new salary would impact my living situation. My financial situation. My attitude. After deciding that I was going to make the leap, he gave me a piece of advice that I feel like keeps coming back into my life, lately. "After you tell your boss that you've accepted a new offer, stop talking. Be silent. Listen, and see what she has to say. Because when you stop, listen, and leave space for silence—that's when some of the most progress happens."
... he was right. It's an approach that I've taken more and more as I've progressed throughout both my career and my personal life. Granted, when passion is at an all-time high, it's hard not to speak up. When I sat down with an upcoming Hurdle guest a couple weeks back, he offered similar words of wisdom.
Reacting to life is a mistake, responding is not.
"Not giving yourself a moment to breathe can be a ruiner. If you see me in a board meeting, no matter what position I hold, I say very little. That's because I know how important it is to take a step back, maybe for an hour, two hours, a night even before respond to something that could be paramount for your career. Open up the window, let some air in, see what happens."
Next time something gets you fired up; next time you feel compelled to fight back; next time you want to scream from the rooftops—just take a second. Silence speaks volumes. And when you do, let me know how that goes for you.